Effecting your world

Effecting your world

As women we can easily lose touch with what makes us happy and excited as we tend to everyone else’s needs around us, whether we are a CEO or a stay at home mom. But what does this cost those we tend to? What are they missing out of if we don’t bring our insights and excitement and enlightenment to the moment we share with them?

In vinyasa yoga class the other day my teacher Carole, told us about the myth of the Lord of the fishes named Matsayana and the creation of yoga. That shiva came down from the mountain excited to tell his partner about what he learned. They thought they were talking in a place where no one could hear them but a fish was in the water nearby and overheard everything they said. That fish became enlightened and the first student of yoga. A fish.

What I get from this story is that no matter how much we may try to keep any type of insight or enlightenment to ourselves, we are bound to effect everything in our environment the moment we express it, especially when we are excited about something. Even a fish in a tank could be effected and uplifted by us.

The collective energy in a room makes up the field-environment, which vibrates at a certain pitch. The overall room pitch or vibration, is based on the collective pitch of the individuals in the room. Often when a few individuals take the initiative, they can change the collective room vibration by increasing their own pitch. This can be done by radiating the attitude of peace and flow into the field environment while doing deep heart listening, with the intent remaining neutral without judgment. – HeartMathInsitiute

I’m not talking about pure transcendent bliss here, just our everyday enlightenment. Sometimes that shows up as laughter and getting through something intense in a more grounded and present way. Who knows. Deep down inside only you know what makes you your best, what makes you excited.

We’ve all experienced being around someone who was passionate about something. Try to remember how that passion and excitement rubbed off on you, how it changed the energy of the space you were in. Just take a look at what happens to water (we are mostly water you know) when different thought vibrations are near it. (as shown from the work of Masaru Emoto) And many, especially in Kundalini Yoga, say women are very powerful in projecting their thoughts and energy, a skill that is needed for child rearing.

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For many of us the issue is a fear of letting go and loosening up. We hold back our laughter and joy and insights, maybe to not be seen or to not be judged. We want our loved ones to  show excitement about what matters to them but we don’t demonstrate it for them.

Women are the backbone of the family, whether a work family or a born family. We have a strong capacity to feel and flow with nature and our surroundings. We just need to let go and share in the moment. It doesn’t matter if no one is around, we will effect the very fabric of life that surrounds us. Even a fish will be lifted up by our energy.


Try one of Matsayana’s fish poses that we did in class:

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Yoga – lose more than weight

Yoga – lose more than weight

My journey through vinyasa and kundalini yoga has been one of fun, challenge, and letting go. One of the things I’ve let go of is physical weight which is great, so many women join for that reason, but another thing I’ve let go of is mental and emotional weight which brings confidence, self respect, and happiness.

This I believe is more important because what women really want when they say they want to lose weight is to be more attractive. Losing mental and emotional weight will make one so much more attractive (and magnetically attracting) then just losing physical weight. It makes us radiant, makes us a magnet for better things to come into our life. Most people don’t pick a part our physical appearance as we usually do to ourselves, it’s just not that important. Most often people first feel our vibe (which is low if you’re worried about weight) and then they look to see if we are smiling (which so few of us do when stressed and criticizing ourselves).

Yoga gives us confidence as we conquer a pose and see all that we are capable of doing. Sometimes we are more comfortable reading books or dabbling in some classes here and there,  feeling like we are doing a lot and we ARE doing a lot, but we also need to balance that with consistent experiences that bring our new changes into our nervous systems making it a part of who we are.

Yoga gives us many experiences. You will face your self, your mind, your issues, your accomplishments, your limited thinking.

CONFIDENCE comes as you show up for class, become a part of a group, and do your best to progress. The more you show up, the more you RESPECT yourself, the more you believe yourself that when you say you are going to do something you will follow through. This leads to success in many areas of life and art. And it leads to others respecting you as well. We show people how to treat us through our thoughts and actions toward ourselves.

In many kundalini classes you may go a lot deeper energetically and emotionally. Many of their sets can help to push you to let go of things that no longer serve you. Letting go of past baggage makes you lighter and HAPPIER. A lot of low level stress is released and you are able to move through the world more engaged. The more you go inward the more relaxed and focused you become. Concentrating on getting yourself into a pose makes you go inward and tune out the world. This is where you find those moments when you are able to see your true self and breathe.

Who wouldn’t want to be around someone who is confident, respects herself, and is somewhat free of past baggage?

So yes, yoga can help you lose weight but hopefully you participate enough to lose so much more than that. See it as time for your self and stay committed to showing up every week or better yet every day.


Humble your Warrior

Humble your Warrior

Deeper meaning of a yoga pose. As women we often feel as if we have to keep up with the world around us, some of us waking at the crack of dawn, going over all we have to do that day in our heads. We loose sight of our true self before we even get out of bed.

We attack the day like misguided warriors ready to conquer anything that comes in front of us. But this usually leaves us feeling stressed out and on guard. How easily we move into fight or flight mode after breakfast, that is if we allow ourselves the time to stop and eat at all. Our whole energy field is on guard. We are not available to share love with our loved ones, we can’t even see them when they are standing right in front of us.

When we we act like this we are not being true warriors, we are being bullies. True warriors are present and humble, they are true to themselves. Bullies are stressed out and trying to prove something to the world around them, they are not being their true selves.

The Warrior poses in yoga teach us how to align our bodies within the space of the four directions, to embody ourselves and stand strong in our energy. I often love doing these poses in class and seeing how I progress through them each new week. One day the instructor had us go a step further, to gather our arms behind our backs and then lean forward (facing the fear of falling over) and humble (bow) our heads.

While doing this I gained a deep sense of what it is like to let go and be humble in any situation, to trust the space and people around me to support me. To know everything will work out and there is no need to be on guard when starting the day, there is no need to try to conquer anything.

To be humble is to be a warrior, to see situations as they truly are not as we imagine they are. We are able to actively engage with our surroundings.

Try this pose or the concept of it in your daily life. Catch yourself when you are in ‘stress & conquer’ mode, and look to see where you can apply some humbleness to the situation. With humbleness a stressed out bully becomes a warrior.


Break Out of a Rut

Whether you’re a writer now or you long to be one, creativity isn’t something that’s always easy to wrangle. You’re heard the stories about writer’s block and you know that some writers are good, but never quite great. The most difficult experience for any writer – new or not so new – is the experience of getting into a rut. When you begin to write the same things over and over, or you just begin to feel like your creativity isn’t flowing the way it used to, it’s time to take action.[more…]

Get Out of the House

Writing is so often a solitary practice, one in which you sit at a computer screen and try to come up with new ideas. But since your computer isn’t going to help you with these new thoughts, it’s time to get out of the house. You need to get out and experience life in order to write about it. Whether this means you head out for a coffee at a local café or you go to the park for a walk, you need to make sure you get out and experience life more often than you are doing right now. When you begin to interact with the outside world, you will begin to see things that will inspire you.

Change Your Routine

Many times, just being in a routine can cause you to feel like you’re in a rut. Maybe you’re a person who writes in the morning or a person who writes late at night – try changing that up for a week. When you do this, you will find you’re able to create from a different perspective, and with a different energy. Though you might not keep this new schedule up forever, sometimes just doing something that you wouldn’t normally do will give you the energy to write things that you wouldn’t normally write.

Write Anything

When all else fails, the best plan of action to get out of a creative rut is to write anyway. Even when you think your words have no meaning and they’re only causing you frustration, write anyway. Write for ten minutes, twenty minutes, or for an hour, without stopping. Don’t judge what you’ve written, don’t even go back to read it. Just write. The more you write past the point of being frustrated and bored with the process, the more you will push past any mental blocks that might be causing your rut.

Get Inspired

Another great way to break out of a creative rut is to read books and poems from those who inspire you. When you begin to look at the creative results of writing, you can begin to want to pick up the pen or the laptop again. Head to poetry readings, writing conferences, etc. Surround yourself with others who are creating, and you’ll reconnect with your muse again.

Writing is something that allows you to be creative, and yet, everyone gets into a rut sometimes. You will too, but you don’t have to stay there for long.

Fallow Time

Many writers have commented on how they are having a tough time getting one page of writing done lately. They berate themselves with tons of ‘shoulds’ and ‘have tos’ all the while wondering if they really are a writer at all.

What we all tend to forget, in any area of life, is that fallow (inactive) periods are a normal part of life. Everything has a natural energy cycle – spring, summer, fall, winter – so to speak, including writing or creativity.

You need time each year, or maybe even each month depending on how demanding your other jobs may be, to clear room and make space for new projects or make space for new ideas on old projects.[more…]

Fallow times provide this opportunity to clear out the old and make way for the new. Very often writers hang on with dear life to every idea they have ever had, filling the back of their minds with the clutter of many ‘have-to-writes’.

Where does that leave the space for the muse to come in? There’s no room for inspiration.

If you still have that idea from childhood to write a certain mystery, rolling around in your brain perhaps it is time to let it go? Or at least write it down and file it away in a separate box to get it out of your mind?

The key to getting through a fallow period is in allowing it to just ‘be’. Accept it and go with it. Enjoy the time off. Maybe pick up a hobby that has nothing to do with writing, catch up on how-to books about writing, assess what interests you, figure out where your creativity is taking you. Are you on the right path?

Fallow periods can be frightening and depressing unless you look at them as an opportunity to clear out the old ‘junk’ and make way for something new.

Clean out your closets, your files, your computer files and get rid of old goals that no longer serve your current path.

Trust that you are still in creative flow and the muse is just asking for more space to grow.